How can counselling for couples help?
When we have been in a relationship or marriage for a long time it can be easy to fall into a trap of not listening to the other person or not communicating our needs clearly. Sometimes talking to someone with no connection to yourself or your partner is all it takes for you to gain perspective. The aim of couples counseling is to help you do the following:
• Understand how external factors such as family values, religion, lifestyle and culture affect your relationship.
• Reflect on the past and how it operates in the present.
• Communicate in a more constructive way.
• Negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible.
As your counseling sessions progress, you and your partner may find a way of overcoming your problems, or you may decide it is time to part ways. Either way, hopefully counseling will offer you the space to grow and decide what you would like the future to hold for both of you. When is the right time to seek help?
Every couple is different and so when you choose to seek help will depend on the nature of the issue you are facing. If you are concerned about your relationship and feel you are unable to reach a conclusion alone, it is likely that you will benefit from couples counseling.
For some, the suggestion of couples counseling is considered a ‘last resort’ to save a relationship/marriage.
While of course this is sometimes the case, you do not have to wait until things get that bad before trying couples counseling. Many couples use therapy sessions as a way to keep their relationship healthy and address any underlying concerns that may become conflicts in the future.